Have you ever felt like someone would one day find out that you are really not that good as they think you are? That you are not that talented, prepared, experienced, smart, etc?
As a coach I see this all the time. Especially with C level executives of fast growing companies.
What if my success this far has been due to luck? To a series of events that led me here, but now, in this new stage of growth, I don’t have what it takes to make it?
This happens to many of us, specially entrepreneurs, artists, creatives, high achievers or anyone who dares to put themselves a little bit beyond their comfort zone. It happens to me every time I write a blog post, every time I stand in front of a large audience. What if they find out that I don’t have what it?
Margie Warrell, in her article “Afraid Of Being ‘Found Out?’ How To Overcome Impostor Syndrome” published in Forbes writes:
“…what matters most is not whether we occasionally (or regularly) fear failing, looking foolish or not being ‘whatever enough’; it’s whether we give those fears the power to keep us from taking the actions needed to achieve our goals and highest aspirations. Unfortunately, too often people do just that.”
Here’s 3 strategize I use to deal with impostor syndrome for myself or my clients:
- QUESTION: Is it really all a lie? Did you really get here just by luck? Make a list of everything you accomplished so far, was all that gifted to you? Usually the answers to these questions will give us a glimpse of the truth that while we might have been lucky here or there, getting here has required work, commitment and consistent action on our part.
- PERSPECTIVE. If you are an impostor, would you say the same for every teacher, colleague, partner that has been in your path? Those you learned from, your mentors, your colleagues? Usually the answer to this question is a very strong NO. We tend to see those we work with or learn from as the real deal.
- FOCUS ON VALUE. OK, you are a fake. Now what? You are still the CEO of the company or the SVP or standing in front of the crowd. What, in the role you are assigned at that moment, can you do to bring the most value? Maybe it won’t be perfect, maybe you don’t have all the answers, bring forth what you DO have to offer and be open and transparent about what you are still learning, where you need help or where you feel you are not prepared.
CLARITY on where you stand and how you are moving forward is key to dealing with impostor syndrome and reconnecting with your strength, your worth and your voice.
I had the chance to chat with Kimberly Spencer of the Princess and the B Podcast and talk about curiosity, motherhood, entrepreneurship, and how to get on a stage!
Check out the interview HERE!
Here’s a quick play by play:
Why do you have to follow your curiosity? (3:45)
What is the difference between the way an entrepreneur thinks and the way an employee thinks? (7:00)
How do You Start Speaking and Sharing Your Stories on Stage? (12:50)
Why do you need to be clear with what you want to say? (13:25)
How do you build trust in a sales type of relationship? (22:45)
Why do we need to operate on our genius zone? (31:55)
Key Talking Points:
1) The opportunity to clarify the core message of their business so that it better communicates the true essence of what the company does
2) A framework that offers consistent clarity for action and decision making
3) The ability to deliver coherent messaging, brand awareness, and presence for their company in the marketplace
In Clarity,
Kitty Waters, Success Coach, Dharma Expert, and Co-Creator of The Network for Transformational Leaders and I sat down to talk about her spiritual awakening that led her from a life of unhealthy behaviors to living in alignment with her soul’s purpose.
Kitty encourages her clients to look beyond what they’ve been told about the world they live in. She believes there is more to life than what we can see. She encourages us to ask ourselves: Is your life what you want it to be? How do you feel about your life? Does it represent you? Is this what you signed up for? Are we here to evolve or repeat the same mistakes?
One of Kitty’s gifts is making big concepts very simple. She explains Dharma (as defined in the ancient Vedic Texts) as a purpose — the right path of action for the individual and humanity at the same time. There are 7.5 billion people on the planet, but there’s only ONE you. Your job in your lifetime is to truly understand who you are, what you love, what you are passionate about and then go and do that. Your passions are your breadcrumbs to the correct path in life. When your passions combined with your unique gifts are being utilized to serve, you live longer, you’re happier and healthier and you feel fulfilled. She reveals that we can FEEL when we’re on track.
Kitty believes that when we do what we love, we resonate at a higher level because emotions have a frequency. When you’re not living in alignment with our souls, the emotional toll can weigh heavy on us both emotionally and physically. People not living in alignment may feel depressed or heavy. When you’re doing something so natural to you that you could do it for free all day long, your energy changes too. This is the space we’re meant to be in! This flow state makes us super conductive, attracting opportunities and other aligned people. Understanding your gifts and creating your vision and aligning your life with them opens the door for our lives to unfold the way it was meant to.
It can be hard to take the next step, even if you know what it is, when you can’t see the path you’re meant to be on. The path will be revealed to us when we have the courage to take action.
She says we are like a radio and you have to tune yourself to what you want in life.
What frequency are you energetically transmitting on?
Find out more about Kitty and her programs on her site HERE and don’t forget to check out her podcast!
Kitty’s Book Recommendation: Initiation by Elisabeth Haich
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In Clarity,
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How often do you think of new products, services or IDEAS for your company?
What would happen if you were to pursue EVERY IDEA?
Here are 3 questions you can ask yourself BEFORE you roll up your sleeves and build a new offering:
- Is this new offering aligned with your core IDEA? Whether you are just starting out or you have a successful growing business, clarifying the CORE solution you bring to the market and staying aligned with it is critical to growing a scalable business.
- Is this product or service competing with something you already have? How many times do we set out to create new offerings, throwing away work we’ve done in the past? We set out to offer a new product or service that is very SIMILAR to something we created before and yet we decide to start from zero every time.
- Will this product or service contribute to sales for any other products/service? I speak a lot about this when I teach about scalable business models. Each product or service you offer needs to be strategically positioned to service the needs of your clients. Whether it is an entry-level product or service (low investment, easy to commit to) or a higher ticket offering, your clients will likely either start at the bottom and work their way up or start right at the top. However you design your product offering, make sure that each fit with the other like a well planned out puzzle.
As an entrepreneur, creativity is one of your strongest traits. Don’t let it be your weakness by following every spark of inspiration.
Warmly,
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