On our most recent episode, I sat down with Founder & CEO of Super Purposes, Super Julie Braun, also known as SJ, who helps millions of people get the career they deserve through edutainment programs.
Having led creative teams for Victoria’s Secret, MTV, Nike, Estee Lauder, and Carter’s Childrenswear, Super Julie has dedicated the first half of her life to helping corporate America grow. She intends to spend the rest of her life helping others grow by attaining the careers of their dreams. Having grown up with dyslexia & auditory processing disorder as a combo platter, SJ came up with creative ways to work around hurdles. She prides herself on having a self-deprecating sense of humor, being socially and emotionally intelligent and leading with inspiration.
She said that her struggles with education helped her develop a formula, she calls it a “formula for ANYTHING!” Being process-oriented and focusing on steps has been SJ’s path to success!
SJ speaks about using empathy and vulnerability to help people solve problems. She attempts to walk a mile in someone else’s shoes and uses that to help people overcome the hurdles that are holding them back from success. She runs a 12-week program to help people from various backgrounds build the foundation and set them up for success in career planning and land their dream job. Find out more at https://superpurposes.com.
Also, we discussed cupcakes. You don’t want to miss that part!
Super Julie’s Book Recommendation: A Prayer for Owen Meany
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Are you allowed to feel what you feel?
In this talk, Psychologist Susan David, shares that the radical acceptance of all of our emotions — even the messy, difficult ones — is the cornerstone to resilience, thriving, and true, authentic happiness.
“Courage is fear walking,” says Psychologist Susan David, challenging her audience to embrace their true emotions.
A while back, I introduced you to the FRAMEWORK we use with our clients to create their talks. It breaks down the presentation into different key elements that contribute to an overall great talk. This is NOT A FORMULA – it’s a simple framework– the box which holds the sand– so that you can create your unique, authentic talk!
This framework has helped people write TED-style talks, keynote speeches, 5-minute pitches as well as full day-long workshops. It can be adapted to the context of your presentation while guiding you to cover the most important elements for effectively connecting with your audience.
So let’s take a look at how Susan’s powerful talk lines up with the framework!
ENGAGE YOUR AUDIENCE
Susan begins her talk with a hint about her background and an invitation to learn:
MINUTE 00:11 “In South Africa, where I come from, «sawubona» is the Zulu word for «hello.””
INTRODUCE YOUR IDEA
MINUTE 00:11 “But what does it take in the way we see ourselves? Our thoughts, our emotions and our stories that help us to thrive in an increasingly complex and fraught world?”
MINUTE 00:42 “This crucial question has been at the center of my life’s work. Because how we deal with our inner world drives everything. Every aspect of how we love, how we live, how we parent and how we lead. The conventional view of emotions as good or bad, positive or negative, is rigid. And rigidity in the face of complexity is toxic. We need greater levels of emotional agility for true resilience and thriving.”
INTRODUCE YOURSELF
MINUTE 01:14 “ My journey with this calling began not in the hallowed halls of a university, but in the messy, tender business of life. I grew up in the white suburbs of apartheid South Africa, a country and community committed to not seeing.”
MINUTE 01:53 “My father died on a Friday. He was 42 years old and I was 15. My mother whispered to me to go and say goodbye to my father before I went to school.”
PRESENT THE EVIDENCE/ DATA
MINUTE 03:30 “But one person did not buy into my story of triumph over grief. My eighth-grade English teacher fixed me with burning blue eyes as she handed out blank notebooks. She said, «Write what you’re feeling. Tell the truth. Write like nobody’s reading.» And just like that, I was invited to show up authentically to my grief and pain.”
MINUTE 04:29 “Life’s beauty is inseparable from its fragility. We are young until we are not. We walk down the streets sexy until one day we realize that we are unseen. We nag our children and one day realize that there is silence where that child once was, now making his or her way in the world. We are healthy until a diagnosis brings us to our knees. The only certainty is uncertainty, and yet we are not navigating this frailty successfully or sustainably.”
MINUTE 05:55 “In a survey I recently conducted with over 70,000 people, I found that a third of us — a third — either judge ourselves for having so-called «bad emotions,» like sadness, anger or even grief. Or actively try to push aside these feelings. We do this not only to ourselves, but also to people we love, like our children — we may inadvertently shame them out of emotions seen as negative, jump to a solution, and fail to help them to see these emotions as inherently valuable.”
MINUTE 08:01 “Research on emotional suppression shows that when emotions are pushed aside or ignored, they get stronger. Psychologists call this amplification. Like that delicious chocolate cake in the refrigerator — the more you try to ignore it … the greater its hold on you. You might think you’re in control of unwanted emotions when you ignore them, but in fact they control you. Internal pain always comes out. Always. And who pays the price? We do. Our children, our colleagues, our communities.”
REMIND THE AUDIENCE OF YOUR IDEA
MINUTE 10:31 “So, how do we begin to dismantle rigidity and embrace emotional agility? As that young schoolgirl, when I leaned into those blank pages, I started to do away with feelings of what I should be experiencing. And instead started to open my heart to what I did feel. Pain. And grief. And loss. And regret. ”
REVEAL THE NEW REALITY
MINUTE 11:01 “When we label our emotions accurately, we are more able to discern the precise cause of our feelings. And what scientists call the readiness potential in our brain is activated, allowing us to take concrete steps. But not just any steps — the right steps for us. Because our emotions are data.”
MINUTE 12:33 “But there’s an important caveat. Emotions are data, they are not directives. We can show up to and mine our emotions for their values without needing to listen to them. Just like I can show up to my son in his frustration with his baby sister — but not endorse his idea that he gets to give her away to the first stranger he sees in a shopping mall.”
MINUTE 12:56 “We own our emotions, they don’t own us. When we internalize the difference between how I feel in all my wisdom and what I do in a values-aligned action, we generate the pathway to our best selves via our emotions.”
INVITE YOUR AUDIENCE TO TAKE ACTION
MINUTE 13:59 “In my research, when I looked at what helps people to bring the best of themselves to work, I found a powerful key contributor: individualized consideration. When people are allowed to feel their emotional truth, engagement, creativity and innovation flourish in the organization. Diversity isn’t just people, it’s also what’s inside people. Including diversity of emotion. The most agile, resilient individuals, teams, organizations, families, communities are built on an openness to the normal human emotions. It’s this that allows us to say, «What is my emotion telling me?» «Which action will bring me towards my values?» «Which will take me away from my values?» Emotional agility is the ability to be with your emotions with curiosity, compassion, and especially the courage to take values-connected steps. ”
MINUTE 14:59 “But when our moment comes to face our fragility, in that ultimate time, it will ask us, «Are you agile?» «Are you agile?» Let the moment be an unreserved «yes.» A «yes» born of a lifelong correspondence with your own heart. And in seeing yourself. Because in seeing yourself, you are also able to see others, too: the only sustainable way forward in a fragile, beautiful world. Sawubona.”
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I was honored to be featured on The Modern Manager Podcast with Mamie Kanfer Stewart a few weeks ago. As we sat down to discuss living leadership from the inside out we talked about how self-care and self-management make room for us to have the capacity to navigate the world while loading ourselves with commitments, our “shoulds,” creates a pileup that can hold us back.
Here’s what I suggest to help you shift into new patterns:
- Bring Awareness – Be the observer of your own experience
- Do Something – get a glass of water, go for a walk, find a way to reset yourself
- Dealing with others in the breakdown – suggest a small activity or break to help reset the situation
- Ask Questions – What do you stand for? What is your life purpose? What are you good at? How do you show up in the world? Are you operating from a place of victimhood or victory? Who is in charge? Who is running your show?
I go more in depth in our interview and I invite you to check it out HERE!
Read more in the accompanying article here at: Living and Leading from the Inside Out
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Do you love yourself?
As a self-professed anxious perfectionist, Dr. Jane Tornatore says that no baby enters the world with self-loathing. We LEARN as a result of trauma, abuse, or turmoil that we are flawed, unlovable or intrinsically bad, but we can change these harmful thoughts and the feelings that come with them. Oftentimes, humans form our beliefs before we can speak. Our view of the world and who we are in it develops before the age of five.
I had the privilege of interviewing Dr. Jane Tornatore, Therapist, Speaker and Author of the book, Everything Is PERFECT, Just Not ME! To talk about how can we learn to love ourselves and begin our journey of healing and fulfillment.
Self-love is a word you hear often, however, this term can be very off-putting, as it can be confused with selfishness or ego. Dr. Jane likes the term “self compassion” as a tool to help us move past fear and into feeling worthy. She shares her story of going from having a victim mentality and how she reshaped her thoughts to help her own journey.
Dr. Jane believes everyone is lovable! She encourages us to be aware of what we actually believe. Once we have this awareness, we can move forward to making changes with kindness.
The question “What do you want?” can feel like an intimidating question to ask oneself. Dr. Jane suggests that instead, we ask ourselves “What do you WANT to want?”
When we imagine what we want to want, the same neurons are firing that would when we actually experience it. Noticing how our body reacts to these questions and emotions can be our guideposts in finding our true selves on this path.
Dr. Jane reminds us that little practice is what brings us to sustained and lasting change. She suggests using open-ended statements like “I’m the kind of person who_____ (fill in the blank)” to help move our brains forward from being stuck in harmful thought patterns to embrace the person we are meant to be.
Dr. Jane’s next undertaking is a launching 3-month program called 7 Powerful Practices For Your Inner Perfectionist, designed to reduce stress and change our inner monologue. The program includes easy-to-implement actions and tools to help us create lasting change and spread kindness. Find out more info here: www.everydaylove.me
Jane’s Book Recommendation: The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown
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